Recommendations for the Sapiosexual

Definition of sapiosexuality :.


  1. 1. (n.) A behavior of becoming attracted to or aroused by intelligence and its use.Origins: From the Latin root sapien, wise or intelligent, and Latin sexualis, relating to the sexes.

Oh, most definitely! *raises hand high*

Are you a fellow Sapiosexual too?  Does intelligence turn you on just as much as a sexy looking package?

A keen mind and a quick wit are about two of the sexiest things in the world to me.  I absolutely love a man who enjoys flexing his mental muscle, just as much as his physical ones.  Wrap that in the right package, and I find it hard pressed to resist such an intoxicating combination.

Likewise, you could be the sexiest man on earth, but if you don’t have as full a package upstairs as you do downstairs, no amount of pleasing physical scenery will negate that.  I need more than just eye candy to get my juices flowing.

My mind is my biggest erogenous zone, and the very best toy in my play bag.

Allow me, if you will, to share with you some of my recommendations for your reading and viewing pleasure.

Sex-Positive Documentaries

Let’s Talk About Sex (2009)

The Science of Sex Appeal (TV – 2009)

The Line (2009)

Our Bodies, Our Minds (2001)

Straightlaced (2009)

The Big O

Sex-Positive Literature

Bonk: The Curious Coupling of Science and Sex by: Mary Roach

The Good Vibrations Guide to Sex: The Most Complete Sexual Manual Ever by: Cathy Winks and Anne Semans

Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It means for Modern Relationships by: Christopher Ryan

The Better Sex Guide to Extraordinary Lovemaking by: The Sinclair Institute

The Joy of Sex by: Alex Comfort

Women’s Anatomy of Arousal by: Sheri Winston

Vagina: A New Biography by: Naomi Wolf

America Unzipped: In Search of Sex and Satisfaction by: Brian Alexander

The Soul of Sex: Cultivating Life as an Act of Love by: Thomas Moore

BD/SM and Kink-Postive Literature

A Hand in the Bush: The Fine Art of Vaginal Fisting by: Deborah Addington

Screw The Roses, Send Me the Thorns by Molly Devon and Phillip Miller (Molly is a good friend, and an invaluable kink resource!)

The Loving Dominant by: John Warren (I met John personally, and have to say he is an inspiration)

The Art of Sensual Female Dominance by Claudia Varrin

The Sexually Dominant Woman: A Guide for Nervous Beginners by: Lady Green (My very first bd/sm book!)

The Seductive Art of Japanese Rope Bondage by Midori and Craig Morey

The Topping Book by: Dossie Easton

The Bottoming Book by: Dossie Easton

Family Jewels: A Guide to Male Genital Play and Torment by: Hardy Haberman

Tricks to Please a Man by: Jay Wiseman

SM 101: A Realistic Introduction by: Jay Wiseman

The Sounds of Sexy: Music to Fuck To

Enigma – Love Sensuality Devotion: The Greatest Hits (or anything by Enigma really, but this album is my favorite)

Dead Can Dance – Toward the Within (World Dance)

Deep Forrest (New Age/ Ambient/World Dance)

Lords of Acid – Lust (Techno/Industrial)

Sade – Lovers Rock (Soul)

Delerium – Karma (Techno/Ambient Pop)

Loreena McKennitt – The Book of Secrets (New Age/Celtic)

The Crystal Method – Tweekend (Electronica)

Jesse Cook – Gravity (Flamenco guitar)

Oceania (cool Maori traditional with a westernized string quartet)

Norah Jones – Come Away With Me

Have a suggestion for me to add to one of these lists?  Send it to me!


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